“We have a solution. We don’t claim that it’s for everybody, but for us, it works. “ —Sexaholics Anonymous, p. 2
In defining sobriety, we do not speak for those outside Sexaholics Anonymous. We can only speak for ourselves. Thus, for the married sexaholic, sexual sobriety means having no form of sex with self or with persons other than the spouse. In SA’s sobriety definition, the term “spouse” refers to one’s partner in a marriage between a man and a woman. For the unmarried sexaholic, sexual sobriety means freedom from sex of any kind. And for all of us, single and married alike, sexual sobriety also includes progressive victory over lust.(Sexaholics Anonymous, pp. 191-192)
The only requirement for SA membership is a desire to stop lusting and become sexually sober according to the SA sobriety definition.
Any two or more sexaholics gathered together for SA sobriety according to SA’s sobriety definition may call themselves an SA group.
Meetings that do not adhere to and follow Sexaholics Anonymous’ sobriety statement as set forth in the foregoing Statement of Principle adopted by the General Delegate Assembly in 2010 are not SA meetings and shall not call themselves SA meetings.
[Addendum to the Statement of Principle passed by the General Delegate Assembly on July 8, 2016.]
Sexaholics Anonymous is but one of several 12-Step fellowships that deal with sexual addiction (“S-fellowships”). SA’s sobriety definition distinguishes it from other S-fellowships that have their own varying definitions of sobriety.
To avoid the appearance of endorsement of the other S-fellowships, we cannot link to them here, but they can be found easily via a web search. If you’re not certain whether SA is for you, we welcome you until you can decide whether SA is the program you both need and want, but do not come to SA expecting to change this definition. If you choose another S-fellowship for your path of recovery, you go with our best wishes.